If you are strong willed, outspoken, maybe sometimes apathetic—you are intimidating."But let’s face it, these words never really explain why that guy never asks us out.
We women have our ideas about what men find intimidating, but what do men say they find intimidating and do they see that as a good thing?
“While change continues in the gender arena, many men still use words like: pretty, sweet, affectionate, and sexy, along with the usual ‘bodily descriptions.’ It all sounds as if they’re describing a ‘feminine ideal.’ But beauty and attraction are subjective.
Different men may define these characteristics differently,” he says.
I asked six men what qualities they found intimidating in women and here is what they said.
“A friend can best reassure a female friend by helping her accept and learn from the shame she feels so she does not give up on herself. Or does she use avoidance (like have too many drinks after a failed date)? Lamia suggests that “A good friend will connect with you and help you accept that it feels humiliating when a date fails or a man isn’t interested.” Dr.“In prehistoric times men needed to be bigger and stronger to protect their families," explains Dr. "But even in modern days, when brain now dominates over brawn, many women still feel more safe and secure with a taller man (and men more secure with a shorter woman).”But here is the clincher: while the guys had their opinions, when asked if any of the things they listed would ever prevent them from asking a woman out, they all answered with a resounding no. Whether you're tall or short, reserved or animated, each guy is going to have different opinions on what they find attractive. But perhaps the old “he is just intimidated by you” line isn’t as helpful as we might think.